第 45 节
作者:打死也不说      更新:2021-02-20 14:22      字数:9322
  frequently seen a little sharp…faced miss rule a whole family; excepting that now and then mamma's anger will burst out of some accidental cloud either her hair was ill…dressed;* or she had lost more money at cards; the night before; than she was willing to own to her husband; or some such moral cause of anger。 (*Footnote。  I myself heard a little girl once say to a servant; 〃My mamma has been scolding me finely this morning; because her hair was not dressed to please her。〃  Though this remark was pert; it was just。  And what respect could a girl acquire for such a parent; without doing violence to reason?) After observing sallies of this kind; I have been led into a melancholy train of reflection respecting females; concluding that when their first affection must lead them astray; or make their duties clash till they rest on mere whims and customs; little can be expected from them as they advance in life。  How; indeed; can an instructor remedy this evil? for to teach them virtue on any solid principle is to teach them to despise their parents。  Children cannot; ought not to be taught to make allowance for the faults of their parents; because every such allowance weakens the force of reason in their minds; and makes them still more indulgent to their own。  It is one of the most sublime virtues of maturity that leads us to be severe with respect to ourselves; and forbearing to others; but children should only be taught the simple virtues; for if they begin too early to make allowance for human passions and manners; they wear off the fine edge of the criterion by which they should regulate their own; and become unjust in the same proportion as they grow indulgent。 The affections of children; and weak people; are always selfish; they love others; because others love them; and not on account of their virtues。  Yet; till esteem and love are blended together in the first affection; and reason made the foundation of the first duty; morality will stumble at the threshold。  But; till society is very differently constituted; parents; I fear; will still insist on being obeyed; because they will be obeyed; and constantly endeavour to settle that power on a Divine right; which will not bear the investigation of reason。
  CHAPTER 12。 ON NATIONAL EDUCATION。 The good effects resulting from attention to private education will ever be very confined; and the parent who really puts his own hand to the plow; will always; in some degree be disappointed; till education becomes a grand national concern。  A man cannot retire into a desert with his child; and if he did; he could not bring himself back to childhood; and become the proper friend and play…fellow of an infant or youth。  And when children are confined to the society of men and women; they very soon acquire that kind of premature manhood which stops the growth of every vigorous power of mind or body。  In order to open their faculties they should be excited to think for themselves; and this can only be done by mixing a number of children together; and making them jointly pursue the same objects。 A child very soon contracts a benumbing indolence of mind; which he has seldom sufficient vigour to shake off; when he only asks a question instead of seeking for information; and then relies implicitly on the answer he receives。  With his equals in age this could never be the case; and the subjects of inquiry; though they might be influenced; would not be entirely under the direction of men; who frequently damp; if not destroy abilities; by bringing them forward too hastily:  and too hastily they will infallibly be brought forward; if the child could be confined to the society of a man; however sagacious that man may be。 Besides; in youth the seeds of every affection should be sown; and the respectful regard; which is felt for a parent; is very different from the social affections that are to constitute the happiness of life as it advances。  Of these; equality is the basis; and an intercourse of sentiments unclogged by that observant seriousness which prevents disputation; though it may not inforce submission。  Let a child have ever such an affection for his parent; he will always languish to play and chat with children; and the very respect he entertains; for filial esteem always has a dash of fear mixed with it; will; if it do not teach him cunning; at least prevent him from pouring out the little secrets which first open the heart to friendship and confidence; gradually leading to more expansive benevolence。  Added to this; he will never acquire that frank ingenuousness of behaviour; which young people can only attain by being frequently in society; where they dare to speak what they think; neither afraid of being reproved for their presumption; nor laughed at for their folly。 Forcibly impressed by the reflections which the sight of schools; as they are at present conducted; naturally suggested; I have formerly delivered my opinion rather warmly in favour of a private education; but further experience has led me to view the subject in a different light。  I still; however; think schools; as they are now regulated; the hot…beds of vice and folly; and the knowledge of human nature; supposed to be attained there; merely cunning selfishness。 At school; boys become gluttons and slovens; and; instead of cultivating domestic affections; very early rush into the libertinism which destroys the constitution before it is formed; hardening the heart as it weakens the understanding。 I should; in fact; be averse to boarding…schools; if it were for no other reason than the unsettled state of mind which the expectation of the vacations produce。  On these the children's thoughts are fixed with eager anticipating hopes; for; at least; to speak with moderation; half of the time; and when they arrive they are spent in total dissipation and beastly indulgence。 But; on the contrary; when they are brought up at home; though they may pursue a plan of study in a more orderly manner than can be adopted; when near a fourth part of the year is actually spent in idleness; and as much more in regret and anticipation; yet they there acquire too high an opinion of their own importance; from being allowed to tyrannize over servants; and from the anxiety expressed by most mothers; on the score of manners; who; eager to teach the accomplishments of a gentleman; stifle; in their birth; the virtues of a man。  Thus brought into company when they ought to be seriously employed; and treated like men when they are still boys; they become vain and effeminate。 The only way to avoid two extremes equally injurious to morality; would be to contrive some way of combining a public and private education。  Thus to make men citizens; two natural steps might be taken; which seem directly to lead to the desired point; for the domestic affections; that first open the heart to the various modifications of humanity would be cultivated; whilst the children were nevertheless allowed to spend great part of their time; on terms of equality; with other children。 I still recollect; with pleasure; the country day school; where a boy trudged in the morning; wet or dry; carrying his books; and his dinner; if it were at a considerable distance; a servant did not then lead master by the hand; for; when he had once put on coat and breeches; he was allowed to shift for himself; and return alone in the evening to recount the feats of the day close at the parental knee。  His father's house was his home; and was ever after fondly remembered; nay; I appeal to some superior men who were educated in this manner; whether the recollection of some shady lane where they conned their lesson; or; of some stile; where they sat making a kite; or mending a bat; has not endeared their country to them? But; what boy ever recollected with pleasure the years he spent in close confinement; at an academy near London? unless indeed he should by chance remember the poor scare…crow of an usher whom he tormented; or; the tartman; from whom he caught a cake; to devour it with the cattish appetite of selfishness。  At boarding schools of every description; the relaxation of the junior boys is mischief; and of the senior; vice。  Besides; in great schools what can be more prejudicial to the moral character; than the system of tyranny and abject slavery which is established amongst the boys; to say nothing of the slavery to forms; which makes religion worse than a farce?  For what good can be expected from the youth who receives the sacrament of the Lord's supper; to avoid forfeiting half…a…guinea; which he probably afterwards spends in some sensual manner?  Half the employment of the youths is to elude the necessity of attending public worship; and well they may; for such a constant repetition of the same thing must be a very irksome restraint on their natural vivacity。  As these ceremonies have the most fatal effect on their morals; and as a ritual performed by the lips; when the heart and mind are far away; is not now stored up by our church as a bank to draw on for the fees of the poor souls in purgatory; why should they not be abolished? But the fear of innovation; in this country; extends to every thing。  This is only a covert fear; the apprehensive timidity of indolent slugs; who guard; by sliming i