is　the　external　exponent　of　his　inner　nature。　　It　indicates　his
  taste；　his　feelings；　and　his　temper；　as　well　as　the　society　to
  which　he　has　been　accustomed。　　There　is　a　conventional　manner；
  which　is　of　comparatively　little　importance；　but　the　natural
  manner；　the　outcome　of　natural　gifts；　improved　by　careful　self…
  culture；　signifies　a　great　deal。
  Grace　of　manner　is　inspired　by　sentiment；　which　is　a　source　of　no
  slight　enjoyment　to　a　cultivated　mind。　　Viewed　in　this　light；
  sentiment　is　of　almost　as　much　importance　as　talents　and
  acquirements；　while　it　is　even　more　influential　in　giving　the
  direction　to　a　man　s　tastes　and　character。　　Sympathy　is　the　golden
  key　that　unlocks　the　hearts　of　others。　　It　not　only　teaches
  politeness　and　courtesy；　but　gives　insight　and　unfolds　wisdom；　and
  may　almost　be　regarded　as　the　crowning　grace　of　humanity。
  Artificial　rules　of　politeness　are　of　very　little　use。　　What
  passes　by　the　name　of　〃Etiquette〃　is　often　of　the　essence　of
  unpoliteness　and　untruthfulness。　　It　consists　in　a　great　measure
  of　posture…making；　and　is　easily　seen　through。　　Even　at　best；
  etiquette　is　but　a　substitute　for　good　manners；　though　it　is　often
  but　their　mere　counterfeit。
  Good　manners　consist；　for　the　most　part；　in　courteousness　and
  kindness。　　Politeness　has　been　described　as　the　art　of　showing；
  by　external　signs；　the　internal　regard　we　have　for　others。
  But　one　may　be　perfectly　polite　to　another　without　necessarily
  having　a　special　regard　for　him。　　Good　manners　are　neither
  more　nor　less　than　beautiful　behaviour。　　It　has　been　well　said；
  that　〃a　beautiful　form　is　better　than　a　beautiful　face；　and
  a　beautiful　behaviour　is　better　than　a　beautiful　form；　it　gives
  a　higher　pleasure　than　statues　or　picturesit　is　the　finest
  of　the　fine　arts。〃
  The　truest　politeness　comes　of　sincerity。　　It　must　be　the　outcome
  of　the　heart；　or　it　will　make　no　lasting　impression；　for　no　amount
  of　polish　can　dispense　with　truthfulness。　　The　natural　character
  must　be　allowed　to　appear；　freed　of　its　angularities　and
  asperities。　　Though　politeness；　in　its　best　form；　should　（as　St。
  Francis　de　Sales　says）　resemble　water〃best　when　clearest；　most
  simple；　and　without　taste；〃yet　genius　in　a　man　will　always
  cover　many　defects　of　manner；　and　much　will　be　excused　to　the
  strong　and　the　original。　　Without　genuineness　and　individuality；
  human　life　would　lose　much　of　its　interest　and　variety；　as　well　as
  its　manliness　and　robustness　of　character。
  True　courtesy　is　kind。　　It　exhibits　itself　in　the　disposition　to
  contribute　to　the　happiness　of　others；　and　in　refraining　from　all
  that　may　annoy　them。　　It　is　grateful　as　well　as　kind；　and　readily
  acknowledges　kind　actions。　　Curiously　enough；　Captain　Speke　found
  this　quality　of　character　recognised　even　by　the　natives　of　Uganda
  on　the　shores　of　Lake　Nyanza；　in　the　heart　of　Africa；　where；　he
  says。　　〃Ingratitude；　or　neglecting　to　thank　a　person　for　a　benefit
  conferred；　is　punishable。〃
  True　politeness　especially　exhibits　itself　in　regard　for　the
  personality　of　others。　　A　man　will　respect　the　individuality　of
  another　if　he　wishes　to　be　respected　himself。　　He　will　have　due
  regard　for　his　views　and　opinions；　even　though　they　differ　from
  his　own。　　The　well…mannered　man　pays　a　compliment　to　another；　and
  sometimes　even　secures　his　respect；　by　patiently　listening　to　him。
  He　is　simply　tolerant　and　forbearant；　and　refrains　from　judging
  harshly；　and　harsh　judgments　of　others　will　almost　invariably
  provoke　harsh　judgments　of　ourselves。
  The　unpolite　impulsive　man　will；　however；　sometimes　rather　lose
  his　friend　than　his　joke。　　He　may　surely　be　pronounced　a　very
  foolish　person　who　secures　another's　hatred　at　the　price　of　a
  moment's　gratification。　　It　was　a　saying　of　Brunel　the　engineer
  himself　one　of　the　kindest…natured　of　menthat　〃spite　and　ill…
  nature　are　among　the　most　expensive　luxuries　in　life。〃　　Dr。
  Johnson　once　said：　〃Sir；　a　man　has　no　more　right　to　SAY　an　uncivil
  thing　than　to　ACT　oneno　more　right　to　say　a　rude　thing　to
  another　than　to　knock　him　down。〃
  A　sensible　polite　person　does　not　assume　to　be　better　or　wiser　or
  richer　than　his　neighbour。　　He　does　not　boast　of　his　rank；　or　his
  birth；　or　his　country；　or　look　down　upon　others　because　they　have
  not　been　born　to　like　privileges　with　himself。　　He　does　not　brag
  of　his　achievements　or　of　his　calling；　or　〃talk　shop〃　whenever　he
  opens　his　mouth。　　On　the　contrary；　in　all　that　he　says　or　does；　he
  will　be　modest；　unpretentious；　unassuming；　exhibiting　his　true
  character　in　performing　rather　than　in　boasting；　in　doing　rather
  than　in　talking。
  Want　of　respect　for　the　feelings　of　others　usually　originates　in
  selfishness；　and　issues　in　hardness　and　repulsiveness　of　manner。
  It　may　not　proceed　from　malignity　so　much　as　from　want　of　sympathy
  and　want　of　delicacya　want　of　that　perception　of；　and　attention
  to；　those　little　and　apparently　trifling　things　by　which　pleasure
  is　given　or　pain　occasioned　to　others。　　Indeed；　it　may　be　said
  that　in　self…sacrificingness；　so　to　speak；　in　the　ordinary
  intercourse　of　life；　mainly　consists　the　difference　between　being
  well　and　ill　bred。
  Without　some　degree　of　self…restraint　in　society；　a　man　may　be
  found　almost　insufferable。　　No　one　has　pleasure　in　holding
  intercourse　with　such　a　person；　and　he　is　a　constant　source　of
  annoyance　to　those　about　him。　　For　want　of　self…restraint；　many
  men　are　engaged　all　their　lives　in　fighting　with　difficulties　of
  their　own　making；　and　rendering　success　impossible　by　their　own
  crossgrained　ungentleness；　whilst　others；　it　may　be　much　less
  gifted；　make　their　way　and　achieve　success　by　simple　patience；
  equanimity；　and　self…control。
  It　has　been　said　that　men　succeed　in　life　quite　as　much　by　their
  temper　as　by　their　talents。　　However　this　may　be；　it　is　certain
  that　their　happiness　depends　mainly　on　their　temperament；
  especially　upon　their　disposition　to　be　cheerful；　upon　their
  complaisance；　kindliness　of　manner；　and　willingness　to　oblige
  othersdetails　of　conduct　which　are　like　the　small…change　in　the
  intercourse　of　life；　and　are　always　in　request。
  Men　may　show　their　disregard　of　others　in　various　unpolite　ways
  as；　for　instance；　by　neglect　of　propriety　in　dress；　by　the　absence
  of　cleanliness；　or　by　indulging　in　repulsive　habits。　　The　slovenly
  dirty　person；　by　rendering　himself　physically　disagreeable；　sets
  the　tastes　and　feelings　of　others　at　defiance；　and　is　rude　and
  uncivil　only　under　another　form。
  David　Ancillon；　a　Huguenot　preacher　of　singular　attractiveness；
  who　studied　and　composed　his　sermons　with　the　greatest　care；　was
  accustomed　to　say　〃that　it　was　showing　too　little　esteem　for　the
  public　to　take　no　pains　in　preparation；　and　that　a　man　who　should
  appear　on　a　ceremonial…day　in　his　nightcap　and　dressing…gown；
  could　not　commit　a　greater　breach　of　civility。〃
  The　perfection　of　manner　is　easethat　it　attracts　no　man's
  notice　as　such；　but　is　natural　and　unaffected。　　Artifice　is
  incompatible　with　courteous　frankness　of　manner。　　Rochefoucauld
  has　said　that　〃nothing　so　much　prevents　our　being　natural　as　the
  desire　of　appearing　so。〃　　Thus　we　come　round　again　to　sincerity
  and　truthfulness；　which　find　their　outward　expression　in
  graciousness；　urbanity；　kindliness；　and　consideration　for　the
  feelings　of　others。　　The　frank　and　cordial　man　sets　those　about
  him　at　their　ease。　　He　warms　and　elevates　them　by　his　presence；
  and　wins　all　hearts。　　Thus　manner；　in　its　highest　form；　like
  character；　becomes　a　genuine　motive　power。
  〃The　love　and　admiration；〃　says　Canon　Kingsley；　〃which　that　truly
  brave　and　loving　man；　Sir　Sydney　Smith；　won　from　every　one；　rich
  and　poor；　with　whom　he　came　in　contact　seems　to　have　arisen　from
  the　one　fact；　that　without；　perhaps；　having　any　such　conscious
  intention；　he　treated　rich　and　poor；　his　own　servants　and　the
  noblemen　his　guests；　alike；　and　alike　courteously；　considerately；
  cheerfully；　affectionatelyso　leaving　a　blessing；　and　reaping　a
  blessing；　wherever　he　went。〃
  Good　manners　are　usually　supposed　to　be　the　peculiar
  characteristic　of　persons　gently　born　and　bred；　and　of　persons
  moving　in　the　higher　rather　than　in　the　lower　spheres　of　society。
  And　this　is　no　doubt　to　a　great　extent　true；　because　of　the　more
  favourable　surroundings　of　the　former　in　early　life。　　But　there　is
  no　reason　why　the　poorest　classes　should　not　practise　good　manners
  towards　each　other　as　well　as　the　richest。
  Men　who　toil　with　their　hands；　equally　with　those　who　do　not；　may
  respect　themselves　and　respect　one　another；　and　it　is　by　their
  demeanour　to　each　otherin　other　words；　by　their　mannersthat
  self…respect　as　well　as　mutual　respect　are　indicated。　　There　is
  scarcely　a　moment　in　their　lives；　the　enjoyment　of　which　might　not
  be　enhanced　by　kindliness　of　this　sortin　the　workshop；　in　the
  street；　or　at　home。　　The　civil　workman　will　exercise　increased
  power　amongst　his　class；　a